Tips To Raise Spirited Kids

Have you ever been in a line at a fast food joint or at a grocery store and there was a kid throwing a temper tantrum over a simple thing?

Maybe they didn’t like the cereal picked out or they wanted a toy they didn’t get. It’s hard to get them to listen sometimes. Next on family growth blog , we will give some tips to raise spirited kids.

One thing that works with my son is, before we go anywhere like a toy store or play ground, we set down our son and tell him where we are going, what he can and can’t do and that when it is time to go he isn’t allowed to cry or protest.

This sets his mind and what to expect and what is expected of him. There are no surprises for him as to what he can or can’t do. It is all expected and there for planed even in his mind. This works so well and I can tell a difference in his action when we do this compared to if we forget.

Another thing is never back down from what you say you will do. If you say you will do something in response to their actions then always do it. Never change your mind.

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If you give a warning always back it up with actions. If you let the child believe you wont go thru with your warning then why would they bother listening. I’ve heard parents make warning after warning and never follow through. Those kids didn’t listen then and I doubt they ever will given the environment.

You might give them a choice on a matter. Maybe whether to eat one food or the other or go home without any food. Chances are they well make a decision quick if they truly believe you will take them home without.

Again you must follow-up on your warning. If they cry don’t bend or give in. Children will take advantage of every weakness that you show.

Some believe that not even giving attention at home when a child throws a temper tantrum will help. If a child doesn’t believe that it will help then why spend all the energy.

I don’t have a lot of experience with this but books I have read seem to indicate this works.

One thing I do have experience with is that positive reinforcement works. When I teach my child the correct way to do something or a correct way to act he loves the positive feed that I give. He strives to do more according to what I am teaching for more of the same. Who in this world doesn’t like some praise time to time?

One more thing I do is when I see some other child acting out a temper tantrum is I show this behavior to my child. I ask if this child is acting properly and he always says no. I ask does he want to be seen acting like this and he always says no.

I simply state that this is embarrassing and not very appropriate for a big boy. He responds to this being he wants to be seen as a big boy. So later if he starts acting out I remind him of this other child’s behavior and it reminds him to be a big boy. This works often also.

This are some simple but effective tips. I hope they work for you and if you have any others maybe you could make some comments. I also hope you share this to your circles and friends. Hit the like button and or tweet. Thanks ahead of time.

Eight Tips For Your Children To Eat Well

The secret to encourage the children to eat well is to establish the habit. A job starts when you add other foods along with milk for around six months old children.

For this process to be effective, you must be constant, gradual and patient. Feeding problems appear when a child feel strange with new foods. The sooner you detect the problem, them less complicated remedy must be found.

Rocío Ramos Paul, the psychologist and co – author of “My child does not eat”, gives us the keys for our children to have a good diet and learn to clear their dishes at every meal:

1- Establish The Habit

Ramos Paul said that as with many others problem, “the best solution is early prevention”.

And that is achieved by integrating the habit of eating in children from the start.

Keeping a routine and addressing the changes and progress experienced at each age. To achieve this, the expert speaks of three basic rules: “Start every meal in the same way in the same place at the same time”.

If we have a set schedule for five meals, or at least for dinner and breakfast if the rest of the day we are not at home, we will always do in the same place and meet a fixed routine (eg, washing hands , setting the table together, sit all around it and finish all food before removing the table and only then devote to other activities).

The child knows what to do in every moment, and automatically the habit is formed” he says.

2- Follow The Stages

Children grow up step by step, almost every day, and learning should be in line with this progressive development.

Ramos Paul remarked that parents need to pay attention to when children are ready to pass the mashed potatoes and porridges to unprocessed foods to incorporate new flavors and to start using the spoon or fork.

“Difficulties arise when children already pass these stages but still can not do the same thing as other kids. If between the age of a year and a half and three years, my son will not try new foods, later other problems will arise, such as refusing to chew or not want to eat more than four things” he says.

3- The Bottle To Spoon

Ramos Paul also gives practical advice to move from one stage to another. The first big jump is from bottle to spoon feeding.

“Some kids reject it. In these cases, we give them a couple of tablespoons, waited a couple of minutes and try again. If the child refuses to eat, try the next day.

With patience, you always get what you want. When you have to leave purees and baby food to pass unprocessed foods, you should start with small pieces in the same mash. Also, experts recommend “rallar cookie in milk or fruit or bread crumbs include food or pieces of white fish, ham or cheese for chewing skill.”

4- Duration Of The Meals

According to the experts, “meals should not last less than 20 minutes and not more than 40”. If they are very fast, they are not good for digestion. And if it last for too long it may be a way for the child to get attention from their parents.

5- Varying Food

Children should keep trying new foods. Always follow the advice of your pediatrician regarding at what age to introduce new food and how much. Again, Ramos Paul says that “we must form the habit,” but he also warns that you should “sit with the child.”

“To incorporate new flavors, parents must go gradually” he adds. “If your child like fruit, we give him once a week, then twice, and later we add a second fruit, and so we move forward.” “Or if your child does not like something, give some of that along with other food.

Encourage him to try it at least and incorporate new products weekly or every 15 days ” he says. And he recognizes that “despite parents’ efforts, there are times and ages in which trying new foods is difficult evolutionary. It gives them fear for survival instinct. There must be the companion.

6- No Reward System

“You should not use the reward system for food” said Ramos-Paul. “It is a habit that must be integrated from a routine, not as part of a negotiation” he adds. “At one point, he notes, we can use the prize to reward him for face his fears. For example, let him choose the dessert from a number of options if he has been brave and has tried some new flavor”.

7- Do Not Take This Too Seriously

Ramos-Paul asks parents not to be obsessed with feeding the child with the same amount, especially after the first year. “There is a time when they stop growing as quickly and therefore do not need as much caloric intake,” he says. “There are mothers who worry as the child does not eat as much as before. But the truth is that they no longer need as much food.” A few weeks ago the journal Pediatrics published a study says that children who continue bottle feeding beyond the first 12 months have a higher risk of childhood obesity. The expert explains that this is precisely due to the concern of parents although they are eating enough, which often leads them to fall into the supercharger. Parent